Rather than making the innocent expressions a mere prelude to the "heavier stuff," make the most of them. Express tenderness by simply putting your arms around each other.Make sure a kiss communicates true feeling and isn't just the first step to further physical involvement. Every marathon runner knows that you don't use up your energy at the beginning of the race; you need most of it at the end.What I mean is that I like them right where they are…I know she’s not interested in hooking up with other guys, we see each other regularly enough (one a week or so) and when we’re together it’s nice, but there’s no feeling of exclusivity or dependency. The girl starts becoming attached to me, missing me and wanting to become more “official”.Abstinence dating can be challenging for anyone who hopes to wait for sex until they have found the person they choose to marry.It's best to approach dating with a clear and healthy plan for remaining abstinent while still enjoying intimacy with the people you meet.
I was already celibate when I met my husband and made it clear (with my words and actions) that there’d be no sex in the champagne room very early on! Viewing abstinence as such, you can see why many people choose to use this term when encouraging young people to save sex for marriage. There is an extremely valuable discipline learned through not immediately acting on one’s desires. Abstinence is also encouraged so that one learns “delayed gratification”—saving something now makes it more valuable in the future. If the child “abstains” from eating all the cookies immediately, the child is learning the value of delayed gratification.I’m not looking for that and when that starts coming up, I scale my presence in her life back considerably – I don’t want things to turn into a relationship and therefore I withdraw. I’ve pushed her away and now I’m going to lose her. my goal being that I’d like to return to “stasis” – that perfect sweet spot of comfortable company and sexual satisfaction without having to tie myself down to any relationship.Then, inevitably, the girl starts to get upset, frustrated, confused, etc. My point here: My goal is to maintain the stage before exclusivity and relationship happens. I’m clear on this and it’s practical for where I am in my life right now.
Every man, woman, and child in the world can be living chastity—priests, religious brothers and sisters, single people, married couples, and teenagers. It means that you understand the power of sex enough to keep it in marriage.